What do we all really want anyway?

I had a hair appointment the other day, and my hairdresser was dying to hear about the latest dating stories - he had to pour us some more mimosas before I began. My latest date had to be one of the worst - like THE worst. It was with a certified omelet flipper - and for the record I actually thought that he was joking and didn't want to tell me what he did. He wasn't joking.

As the date progressed, it was over in so many way. All the don'ts were hit and even some don'ts that I had no idea even existed happened. So lets have a bulleted list of the evenings events:

• He was 45 minutes late due to his car running out of gas
• He made it by his roommate dropping him off because he "had to get to this date"
• He Ordered a beer
  
• My seat sat higher than his seat and he continually asked me how tall I was and he wanted to move outside to the patio
• He Ordered a glass of wine
  
• Moved to the outside patio and proceeded and wanting to sit outside in the monsoon
• He Ordered a glass of wine
• He asked me what I drove and then told me I was materialistic due to owning a German engineered car
• He ordered a glass of wine
  
• I finally told him I was tired of sitting in the rain and can we go back in
• He ordered a glass of wine
• I told him I was hungry and if we could order dinner- it's been about an hour and a half now
• He told me he had already eaten which confused me because we were meeting for dinner
• He ordered a glass of wine
• I ordered macaroni and cheese
• He ordered a glass of wine
• His roommate calls wanting to pick him because he wants to go to bed
• He comes back asking if I will drive him home clear across town - I say no and his roommate can come get him
• He says that he will stay at my house then
• I say no
• He says he will sleep on the floor
• I say no
• He calls him roommate back and his roommate says he will pick him up later
• I just want to go home
  
• He then tells me how great cycling is, he bikes everywhere and if a girl has an issue that he doesn't have a car she's selfish
• I tell him I have an issue with a guy not owning a car
• He orders a glass of wine
• I explain that I want to be treated like a lady including being picked up for a date, and doors opened
• He says he's thought I was about quality
• I say that I am but that chivalry is far from dead
• He orders a glass of wine
• He tells me he just got out of an abusive marriage that he ran away from
• He reaches over and steals a bit of my macaroni and cheese
• I lose my appetite
• He tells me he would bike to my house and he could shower then we could go for a date - in my car but he would drive - my car
• I begin daydreaming about running from the building screaming, getting in to my car and never look back
• He orders a glass of wine
• He asks me if I want to half the check - I say that I will pay for my one drink and food if he likes - he says no and pays
• He goes to the bathroom - and all I want to do is run away very fast

I won't bother with any of the other comments or crudeness that makes this date one of the worst and in case you lost track that was 1 beer and 9 glasses of wine in a 2 hour period.

Follow up: He called me an hour later saying what a great time he had. Then asked my age again, told me I was old and how come I didn't have any kids - BTW I'm 27.

Follow follow up: He Myspace messaged me 4 hours later telling me that even though there wasn't a connection he hopped that I would still consider using him for my company as a subconsultant.

Follow follow follow up: He texted me 8 hours later because I had not checked my Myspace and he wanted me to read his message so I did. I texted back saying I couldn't agree more about no connection and good luck to him. That spawned another 3 hours of him texting and calling me about liking me then not, and what if he couldn't ever buy anything expensive ever and what about me just supporting him through his rough time.......

Somehow I don't think this date needs explanation of what NOT to do. My one piece of advice is if you aren't over your wounded heart don't date and if you aren't secure in yourself find yourself then date.

Much love and happiness,
The L Grl

Online Dating Don'ts

So, I took a break from the online dating - life got a bit crazy and I just couldn't focus on it. But I returned just a few days ago and I am surprised at the messages - I mean, when did we become such a society of people that just have far too much word vomit?

And I'm not talking about the racy or sexual messages you get - cause people are just going to be like that - but the one's that are offensive without maybe them trying to be offensive?

Or maybe they are. I have learned over the years that men are far more sensitive than they would like us to believe and they are far more needy than they want us to believe either. I mean, I remember in high school where you were "clingy" if you wanted to talk every day or walk the halls together or whatever else. They were "too cool" to hang with you every day and now, it's like the tables have turned.

So, so far some of my favorite messages from guys.
"How is someone so beautiful still single?" Oh come on. Guys, there are 100 different things that you can message to a woman other than that - it's lame and I kind of get insulted. So - if I am still single then what? Somethings wrong with me? I'm like everyone else in the dating world trying to find their match - I haven't been so lucky with my choices but it's my nature to look at the positive and keep trying. However, if I have to write that to all of you - it gets old, boring and why in our first conversation do I need to tell you my personal life story?

See? What ever happened to talking about hobbies or what you do - or Twinkies - something!

Another favorite. "Oh, so your still trying aren't you?"
Uh, ya. And by you messaging me - it looks like you are "still at it too." So are you trying to offend me? Check. Make me mad? Check. Make me understand why you are still SINGLE? Check. Your a jerk - it's obvious. Don't message me that I'm still at it like it's the black plague that is about to consume a small village. If you are embarrassed about being on a dating site - delete your profile and good luck at the bars.

My last favorite. Your profile is a list of everything that you don't like, don't want and somehow you think you are so great that women will bow to your greatness for saying all that "honesty." Look alive. Your profile - should be positive. Should be about you and what you are looking for. Not what you don't want, that "if you have this or that don't message me", etc., etc. Don't be offended when you stay single "for another year" but can't figure out why.

No negative. All positive. If you send a sarcastic message expect one back - and don't get mad when that's what you get back. Don't ask why they are still single - and don't be offended when they message you back that "that's a bit cliche by now." If you have a picture with your shirt off - that's what you are going to attract - so don't list in your profile you aren't looking for a shallow girl.

Be real. Be funny. Have a heart.

My favorite profiles are one's that make me laugh to almost tears, that are so original that you have to just respond or that say something random - like "I have to eat chocolate in the bathtub so I won't get fat."

If you want real love - start being real.

Much love and happiness,
The L Grl

Be Honest with your Heart

When's the last time that you had a sit down and an all important talk with your heart?
Been awhile eh? I figured.

Being honest with yourself is difficult enough, throw in having to be honest with your heart and it isn't so easy. It is possible for your head and your heart to agree you just need to sit down and have a chat. One person I know goes as far as to have a date with themselves once a week.

I like that idea, date myself once a week. Really get to know myself because really, how else can you share your life with someone else if you don't really know yourself.

It took me a long time to be comfortable in my own skin and really know myself and just the other weekend I guess me and the opposite sex didn't see eye to eye. When I told him that I wasn't really sure about where I wanted to go with him or anyone and that I didn't plan that I just wanted to have fun and see what developed.

How he took it? Broke up with his girlfriend, called me to hang out and told me it was over, but kept the girlfriend at bay but kept me and figured I would be okay with it because I just wanted to enjoy my time. Uh, no.

Guys, release the safety net. Let go of the what if's and the ex's - go out on a a date with yourself. Figure out who you are and what you want and what you are capable of. Let go of "always being friends with my ex's" because again, you are hanging on the the past and not looking to the future. Being friends with your ex doesn't make you a great guy it makes you always have options. I'm not saying the be a jerk and never speak to them again but there are ways to be cool with your ex's without being friends - same goes for the female side.

So, I think this guy needs to date himself and be alone. He can't go out without dressing as a character - whether it's business, Scottsdale style, kickback style, rugged bike style - whatever he has to have a style. And pick out multiple outfits before choosing his final selection. Seriously, lets focus. Know yourself, know what you are capable of then date.

If you are in your 30's and you think that 6 months is a long time with someone and you are heart broken because you ended it - get over it. It was only 6 months, and not until you are in love, for years will you understand what love is and how beautiful it can be.

But if you aren't open to it, and don't even know who you are just character's playing a part - don't date and spend some much needed alone time.

Then, sit down with your heart and have an honest heart to heart with it. LOL!

Much love and happiness,
The L GRL

Love is a Chance worth taking - over and over again

"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.

- Captain Corelli's Mandolin. "Love is the beauty of the soul." --St. Augustine

Honesty.

Since when did we become a group of individuals where we could not hear someone being "honest?" We react in an emotional up roar of anger or hurt or sadness or however many other ways you can react poorly to someone just being HONEST.

I know we don't like to hear it, but in the dating world, that is just what happens. You win some and you lose some and you try some on for awhile and well, it just doesn't fit. So what? Move on, there are more than 6 billion people on this planet and survey shows that YES! you will find someone too!

But this whole honesty thing. Interesting. I once told a friend that I wish I could break up with a guy just to see how he handled himself. If he was an adult, and calm and normal - relatively speaking - I would want him back. If he blew up, went crazy, hacked your email, bad-mouthed you to the free world and blew up your phone - well that was just the side of him you never wanted to see again.

The way that people react in stunning or hurtful situations says a lot about someone's character. My personal favorite is when they go directly after you - like it's your fault you aren't interested in them. They say your cold or a very sad and lonely person, that you are in denial or what ever else they can say to hurt you - all because you were being HONEST and just not that interested.

Now, I LOVE the book He's just not that in to you. Where is the one for guys? Where is the one that when She just isn't that in to you.

Instead men get upset. They fly off the handle, be mean, say hateful things or take digs as to why you are on an online dating site - hello? They are on the same site.

I have had good reactions. Thanks for being honest, your cool for that. I have had the same. That's part of mature dating and handling things in a proper manner. Now, I'm glad that I learn sooner than later how someone handles hearing things they don't like. It makes it that much easier to tell them where the door is and to lose your number.

I wish there were a way to know how someone handles things like that. Until then, ladies we have to try, try again. Same with men, I am sure there have been a few angry and hurt women out there.

But we are dating, and all is fair in love and war right? We go out, get back online and try try again.

After all, there is someone out there for everyone and you are getting warmer and warmer, colder and then hot!

Much Love and Happiness,

The L GRL

Google

Google, Google, Google.

I always try and investigate before I really begin to date someone. Really find out if they are who they say they are. You want to have a level of trust, however you have to protect yourself.

Did you know that most court cases are public record including divorce and child custody cases? You can go to the county website and look up criminal cases, family court cases and many more. This will give you enough information about anyone and whether or not you should be dating them.

They own a house - or claim to? They have a foreclosure perhaps or not? Look up the county records on the house, see what's really happening.

Google their name, why not? You can even find driving records with infractions. These are the important things to know. Go to white pages and see what address's they have even lived at - there might be some random apartment they have that you never knew about.

How do I know all of this? I made the mistake of not Googling someone I dated until after the relationship ended badly. Once I researched I learned about the "real" terms of the divorce, the "real" terms of the custody battle, the "real" story with the repossessed car, the "real" story with the foreclosed house, the "real" story about everything. It wasn't the ex-wife's fault as what was claimed, it wasn't the ex-wife's fault that all of this was even going on.

I was naive to even get involved with someone that had their life in such turmoil - I was lied to in the beginning, I was told that there was no drama and everything was already handled. Which it wasn't. I should have been more careful, I should have done my homework and really taken the time to see if this person was who they said they were.

Whether it's online dating or meeting someone at a bar. Do you homework and protect yourself. There are many wonderful people out there but there are also very deceptive people as well. Know yourself and trust your instincts.

Much Love and Happiness,
The L Grl

Who doesn't have a crack?

I had dinner with a friend the other night. Frustrated at my love life and how I date the wrong guys and been on one too many boring dates. Dates that consist of hanging out at their place, dinner at a chain restaurant or drinks somewhere. Where did we get so boring in our dates? The suns game first date was cool, but a little hard to talk. The brewery wasn't too bad, it was fun but nothing serious. Mini golf wasn't too bad either - at least it was creative than what I've had in the past - although still boring, still so normal.

I have told so many people my life, what I do, how I do it and whatever 20 questions they ask. I tell them about what I am looking for, why I'm single and any other things. I talk a lot about business, the entrepreneur's I date we could spend hours just talking business and overlooking learning about each other.

I actually had a refreshing "date" tonight, one with an entrepreneur like myself - we began getting on our high horses about business and then quickly caught ourselves laughing at how boring we were. We talked about other things the remainder of the time. The new thing about this "date" is the fact we did it online via voice and camera chat. It was great. We decided that in our busy schedules we were tired of going on dates and losing an hour if it wasn't going to work out.

So we passed our first test of each other and are now meeting in person. We are actually going to take a walk in the park, how un-ordinary. I love it.

So back to the dinner with my friend. He told me that I needed to take a break, "find myself," stop attracting jerks, dating liars, and take a month off. I considered it, then I read an article from a woman wo spent 6 months and dated 100 guys before she found her one. That is why we are all here, to find the one that makes our world move and our hearts skip a beat. She re-inspired me. She didn't give up after a few bad experiences, and what she found was as she dated more and got more courage to tell men when she wasn't interested. And in the midst of finding the one - she found herself.

So, I'm not going to take time off. I'm a good and I am ready to find the one and in turn find myself. Love is the best and strongest thing that you can have in your life - so get out there and find it - and find yourself.

Much love and happiness,
The L Grl

"Love is the Greatest Refreshment in Life" - Picasso

Out with the Old, In with the New

Sometimes you date and it's great. Sometimes you date and it's not so great. Sometimes you date and it's downright horrible.

But it's so much fun! I think that by putting yourself out there, exposing the world to you and all of your vulnerabilities is very liberating. The worst thing that can happen is it doesn't work out and your heart might get hurt. But as we all know, time heals all wounds. Getting back out there is the best thing that you can do.

Somewhere out there is the person for you, the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. Love is the most incredible thing that you can have in your life and relationships are the most important. You can have all the money and success in the world but if you don't have love and relationships you are only half complete.

"Better never to have met you in my dream than to wake and reach for hands that are not there." -Otomo No Yakamochi

Love and Happiness,
The L Grl
Writing online dating profiles

Your World vs. Their World

New relationships are like weaving a basket. In order for the basket to function properly it has to start with a strong and tight base. This is the beginning of your relationship. It's not a basket, just a round disk, ready to begin it's journey in to a basket.

When two people come together their worlds are very separate - two people living single lives and working to create a third world - theirs. This is where the basket weaving begins. Both world weaving in and out of themselves, fitting together where it can to create the sides of the basket. Highs and lows and bumps in the road of the relationship are surely to occur - if you have looked at a hand woven basket, there are flaws - multiple colors, lines are not always even or straight and each section has it's own character.

As time progress's, the relationship gets stronger, the walls of the basket get taller - and it looks like it could actually hold something. This is the ultimate test. What can your basket hold? How well was it made? Did you both create a strong foundation and work and communicate along the way of blossoming relationship? Or did you fight, argue over petty things, not talk and not work as hard as you should have? We all know that relationships are hard work!

Place a ball in your basket - that could be marriage, does the basket hold it?
Place another ball in your basket - that could be purchasing a home - does your basket hold it?
Place 2 more balls in your basket - perhaps children - does your basket hold it?

So far, if you basket is standing tall, you wove a great relationship.

Now add water. Does it hold? This is all of the things that could happen - loss of job, financial issues, children issues, relationship issues, car problems, house problems.

How well does your basket hold up now?

Hopefully, it holds - with little to no leaks and although it might weaken a little or warp the foundation and the walls that you so graciously wove together are still staying tight together and not pulling apart, ripping at the seams or falling apart.

Remember, in a relationship you are weaving your worlds together, creating the sides of your basket and the strength of your relationship. To have a long lasting, heart still skips a beat every time I see you relationship you have to meet in the middle, compromise and above all communicate.

Much love and happiness,
The L GRL
www.thelgrl.com

The 10 Commandments of Harmonious Relationships

I found this article by Mark Sichel, LCSW on the internet when I Googled making relastionships work. I think these are very interesting, but I wanted to make my own comments on them as well.

1. THOU SHALT THINK.
Think before you speak and react, especially if you know the potential for fireworks exists. Sometimes the words will only fan the flames and take you further away from your goal of resolution.
Men and Women think differently. Women over analyze and men are very I say it and I mean it.
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2. THOU SHALT CLEAN YOUR SPLEEN.
Write a brutally honest letter to your wife, husband or lover telling them all the bad feelings and thoughts you’ve ever had about them. Drop the letter into your personal “dead letter box”; and move on with a smile on your face.
I agree with this, sometimes all you need to do is clear your head and move on with the day.
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3. THOU SHALT NOT ARGUE WITH FEELINGS. THOU SHALT LEARN TO LISTEN, LISTEN TO LEARN.
Sometimes your wife needs to tell you how disappointed and upset she is with you. Sometimes your husband needs to go on a diatribe about how you “neglect” him. Sometimes your partner needs to express his or her resentment about the way you’ve treated them. You can’t argue with feelings. Listen when your mate expresses strong feelings. Rather than argue and try to insist that your partner shouldn’t be feeling what they’re feeling, understand that they ARE feeling that way and simply say, “I’m sorry you feel that way.” Try to put yourself in their shoes and give them the empathy that you would want yourself.
This can be very difficult for any relationship. Hearing how you have made someone feel is not easy to hear but this is key to strengthening your relationship. If you and your mate can't do this your won't have good communication which is very important.

4. THOU SHALT UNDERSTAND THAT PRIVACY IS GOLDEN.
While a good relationship involves honesty, saying every single thing that comes into your mind and sharing every feeling is not conducive to true intimacy. Intruding into your partners every thought and feeling is not going to create greater togetherness. Create boundaries and set limits. You know how much contact you can take and how much will ignite your nuclear bomb.

5. THOU SHALT REMEMBER OCCASIONS AND EVENTS.
Remember birthdays and anniversaries. Buy a gift, or make one. This activity is not about spending money. This is a testament that your mate is making you the most important person in their life. Tune in to your partner’s unique likes and dislikes and acknowledge these in an emotionally generous manner. Whatever the occasion, a card and gift makes people feel remembered, and when people feel remembered they feel loved and closer to one another.
Even if it is a .99 cent card on Valentines Day, for women, a card saying how you feel is enough.

6. THOU SHALT NOT OVERREACT. EVER.
When partners feel neglected, they often will create a scenario that invites your overreaction. Overreactions cause all out wars. Don’t do it! If you want to win in your relationship, stay off the battlefield. Assess a dispute with your partner. Is it really worth fighting over? Sometimes couples will get lost in a war of words. Repeat to your self, “They’re only words.”
They are only words. They are only words. They are only words.

7. THOU SHALT BE POSITIVE, APPRECIATIVE, AND INTERESTED.
Sometimes people forget to focus on the positives in a relationship. Tell your wife how beautiful she is, tell your husband how good he looks. Express to your mate those things you appreciate about them. Reflect on ways in which you are grateful to be with the person you love. If you have difficulty knowing how to verbalize these attributes and organizing your thinking in this area, try Psybersquare’s “Appreciation List.”

8. THOU SHALT RESPECT THY MATE.
Treat your mate with respect and dignity. Don’t curse. Don’t hit below the belt. Do anything to avoid violence. Do not let familiarity breed contempt. When there’s a lack of harmony, use a polite and cordial stance in order to end the conflict. Learn your mate’s daily rhythms. If your wife is not a morning person, don’t bring up sensitive issues before she’s had her morning coffee. If your husband gets tired and cranky when returning from work, leave him alone to regroup for an hour or so and then tell him your mother’s coming to visit for a month. Respect is the sum total of all the accumulated small and large considerations that you afford your mate. Take them one at a time.

9. THOU SHALT REMEMBER: WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET.
Do not ever try to change your spouse more than they themselves would like to change. Partners are doomed to failure when they try to change each other. Accept your mate for who he or she is and rejoice in the fact that they accept you for who you are.
Never be in love with what they COULD be, be in love with what they ARE.

10. THOU SHALT UNDERSTAND THAT SHARED EXPERIENCES, INTERESTS AND COMPANIONSHIP BUILD RELATIONSHIPS.
When people have difficulty getting close with each other, they often try to talk their way through it. Sometimes all the talking in the world cannot replace having a good time with your partner. Make sure to spend time together. When there are children in your lives, make sure you guard your time together as a couple like a hawk. Get away for weekends together. Plan romantic dinners. Focus on intimacy, sensuality, and physicality. Take an interest in your partner’s interests; if your wife likes ballet get two tickets. If you’re a sports widow, make an effort to watch a game with your spouse. Two hours at the ballet won’t kill you; two hours at a hockey game won’t kill you. Rediscover each other as the friends you started off as.

As we all move forward to finding love or keeping your relationship healthy, I hope this helps and gives you good advice!

Much love and happiness,
The L GRL

Lusty Love

Is this Lust or is this Love?

I like to be in relationships in the beginning - the lust portion that you hope turns in to love. Most people do. Then someone farts, and the honeymoon is over.

True story. You have to love your significant other smelly farts and all. I cannot tell a lie. I would love to say that it icks me out when my boyfriend farts - but to tell you the truth - I can't help but laugh my heart out and look at him with the same warmth and love as day one - yup, he's still hot to me.

I like the love stage more. The still on edge, will never be too comfortable, could lose you tomorrow but comfortable enough where I don't have to sneak off to the bathroom on the other side of the house to go #2 and hope no one goes in after you.

Lust is fun when you aren't ready to find anyone. You aren't secure yet in your own skin or you just aren't ready. Lust hides within love - love is blind and sometimes ignorant. And when we are blind how do we not see what is right in front of our faces until after our hearts are broken or bank accounts are drained.

Some examples of blindness and what not to do:
You are dating a Dj. That has no manners, no responsibilities, and no retirement plan when they hit 40 and are too old for "in da club."

You are 30, a corporate graphic designer making $40K a year, live in an apartment and you can't afford McDonalds.

You are dating someone 25 years younger than you and you are a millionaire who swears you are in love - I mean, seriously?

You are meeting a girl for the first time, won't make a decision about what to do or where to go and you decide that your first date should be at Rubio's.

You make plans with a girl for a first date on a Friday night and you text her "hey" and continue a text communication for an hour never once mentioning the date, then the date never happens.

So lust and love. What I have learned - love can happen when you take lust out of the picture. In my own experiences of online dating I learned that love is great when you focus on what you have in common. Sometimes, you can't escape the bad dates, but all you have to do is find that one, perfect date.

If all else fails - lust will turn in to love - when all else fails, someone has to fart.

Love and happiness!
The LGRL
Your online dating profile writer

Love Story - Emailed to me

KURTIS THE STOCK BOY AND BRENDA THE CHECKOUT GIRL

In a supermarket, Kurtis the stock boy, was busily working when a new voice
came over the loud speaker asking for a carry out at register 4. Kurtis was almost finished, and wanted to get some fresh air, and decided to answer the call. As he approached the check-out stand a distant smile caught his eye, the new check-out girl was beautiful. She was an older woman (maybe 26, and he was only 22) and he fell in love.

Later that day, after his shift was over, he waited by the punch clock to find out her name. She came into the break room, smiled softly at him, took her card and punched out, then left. He looked at her card, BRENDA. He walked out only to see her start walking up the road. Next day, he waited outside as she left the supermarket, and offered her a ride home. He looked harmless enough, and she accepted. When he dropped her off, he asked if maybe he could see her again, outside of work. She simply said it wasn't possible.

He pressed and she explained she had two children and she couldn't afford a baby-sitter, so he offered to pay for the baby-sitter. Reluctantly she accepted his offer for a date for the following Saturday. That Saturday night he arrived at her door only to have her tell him that she was unable to go with him. The baby-sitter had called and canceled. To which Kurtis simply said, "Well, let's take the kids with us."

She tried to explain that taking the children was not an option, but again not taking no for an answer, he pressed. Finally Brenda, brought him inside to meet her children. She had an older daughter who was just as cute as a bug, Kurtis thought, then Brenda brought out her son, in a wheelchair. He was born a paraplegic with Down Syndrome.

Kurtis asked Brenda, "I still don't understand why the kids can't come with us?" Brenda was amazed. Most men would run away from a woman with two kids, especially if one had disabilities - just like her first husband and father of her children had done. Kurtis was not ordinary - - - he had a different mindset.

That evening Kurtis and Brenda loaded up the kids, went to dinner and the movies. When her son needed anything Kurtis would take care of him. When he needed to use the restroom, he picked him up out of his wheelchair, took him and brought him back. The kids loved Kurtis. At the end of the evening, Brenda knew this was the man she was going to marry and spend the rest of her life with.

A year later, they were married and Kurtis adopted both of her children. Since then they have added two more kids.

So what happened to Kurtis the stock boy and Brenda the check-out girl? Well, Mr. & Mrs. Kurt Warner now live in Arizona , where he is currently employed as the quarterback of the National Football League Arizona Cardinals and has his Cardinals in the hunt for a possible appearance in the Super Bowl. Is this a surprise ending or could you have guessed that he was not an ordinary person.

It should be noted that he also quarterbacked the Rams in Super Bowl XXXVI. He has also been the NLF's Most Valuable Player twice and the Super Bowl's Most Valuable Player.

AND THE REST OF THE STORY:
Today at church our minister mentioned that when Kurt, his wife and 7 children go out to eat he has one of his children pick out a family eating at the restaurant. Kurt then tells the wait staff he is picking up the tab for that family's dinner anonymously. He remembers the days he was working nights in the grocery store and feeding his family on food stamps.

Back to the Basics

Want some humor? I have it! I like stories and I like telling stories. So here's a great story of an ex-boyfriend of mine and a meeting with my father.

1. He talked with his mouth full - could barely understand what he was saying
2. He chewed loudly with his mouth open
3. He ate the asparagus with his fingers like french fries.
4. He offered to buy dinner and his card was declined - 4 times and he didn't even address the
situation with my dad or apologize.
5. A month in to dating I learned that he didn't brush his teeth - ever

Let's note, we were at a high end restaurant. Needless to say while on a date or dating a person; we need manners, etiquette, and hygiene! So back to the basics we go!

When you are on the path to love be yourself but maintain with the basics! Create a level of comfort and make conversation easy. Even if you are nervous, try to relax and most of all don't forget the basics!

Finding love one person at a time,
The L GRL
Profile writing - online dating

Dating: No one said it was easy, but oh so worth it

Dating is difficult! And if you like dating or those first date butterflies, how do you find that? Online dating is the new way to meet people, make new friends and if you are the 20% of the online dating population - you have found love and marriage. (weddingchannel.com)

Welcome to my blog - part of www.thelgrl.com, where I will share tips I have learned, share things I have done that maybe I shouldn't have and anything else interesting I find about dating.

I was probably like you at one point. Unsure, jaded by love and thinking that online dating was ridiculous. But the universe has a weird way of getting their message across, and I heard it - loud and clear! A design client came to me and asked if he could hire me to help him date. Re-write his profile and help him find love.

What an opportunity! I had no idea that it would go beyond where it has - but the universe has it's way of showing people what they are good at. Creativity runs rampant through my blood and that's all I can focus on.

Friends started asking me for help, and pretty soon I felt like a little matchmaker helping people find love. So what about me? My iced over, cold heart began to turn warm again - remember how love felt and why it is important. Living through the difficult times of domestic violence gave me new life in some ways and sadness in other aspects.

But love exists and no matter what you or someone you know has gone through the most important thing to remember is that we are all survivors and we can love again and feel again.

For those who are hopeless romantics, like a few of my friends, what a beautiful thing! Love is out there for anyone wanting and willing to put themselves out there.

6 months ago I didn't believe in love much less a match for me or anyone else. Now, anything is possible - as long as you believe in it.

Stay tuned,

The L GRL
Online dating profile-writing