Online Dating Don'ts

So, I took a break from the online dating - life got a bit crazy and I just couldn't focus on it. But I returned just a few days ago and I am surprised at the messages - I mean, when did we become such a society of people that just have far too much word vomit?

And I'm not talking about the racy or sexual messages you get - cause people are just going to be like that - but the one's that are offensive without maybe them trying to be offensive?

Or maybe they are. I have learned over the years that men are far more sensitive than they would like us to believe and they are far more needy than they want us to believe either. I mean, I remember in high school where you were "clingy" if you wanted to talk every day or walk the halls together or whatever else. They were "too cool" to hang with you every day and now, it's like the tables have turned.

So, so far some of my favorite messages from guys.
"How is someone so beautiful still single?" Oh come on. Guys, there are 100 different things that you can message to a woman other than that - it's lame and I kind of get insulted. So - if I am still single then what? Somethings wrong with me? I'm like everyone else in the dating world trying to find their match - I haven't been so lucky with my choices but it's my nature to look at the positive and keep trying. However, if I have to write that to all of you - it gets old, boring and why in our first conversation do I need to tell you my personal life story?

See? What ever happened to talking about hobbies or what you do - or Twinkies - something!

Another favorite. "Oh, so your still trying aren't you?"
Uh, ya. And by you messaging me - it looks like you are "still at it too." So are you trying to offend me? Check. Make me mad? Check. Make me understand why you are still SINGLE? Check. Your a jerk - it's obvious. Don't message me that I'm still at it like it's the black plague that is about to consume a small village. If you are embarrassed about being on a dating site - delete your profile and good luck at the bars.

My last favorite. Your profile is a list of everything that you don't like, don't want and somehow you think you are so great that women will bow to your greatness for saying all that "honesty." Look alive. Your profile - should be positive. Should be about you and what you are looking for. Not what you don't want, that "if you have this or that don't message me", etc., etc. Don't be offended when you stay single "for another year" but can't figure out why.

No negative. All positive. If you send a sarcastic message expect one back - and don't get mad when that's what you get back. Don't ask why they are still single - and don't be offended when they message you back that "that's a bit cliche by now." If you have a picture with your shirt off - that's what you are going to attract - so don't list in your profile you aren't looking for a shallow girl.

Be real. Be funny. Have a heart.

My favorite profiles are one's that make me laugh to almost tears, that are so original that you have to just respond or that say something random - like "I have to eat chocolate in the bathtub so I won't get fat."

If you want real love - start being real.

Much love and happiness,
The L Grl