Be Honest with your Heart

When's the last time that you had a sit down and an all important talk with your heart?
Been awhile eh? I figured.

Being honest with yourself is difficult enough, throw in having to be honest with your heart and it isn't so easy. It is possible for your head and your heart to agree you just need to sit down and have a chat. One person I know goes as far as to have a date with themselves once a week.

I like that idea, date myself once a week. Really get to know myself because really, how else can you share your life with someone else if you don't really know yourself.

It took me a long time to be comfortable in my own skin and really know myself and just the other weekend I guess me and the opposite sex didn't see eye to eye. When I told him that I wasn't really sure about where I wanted to go with him or anyone and that I didn't plan that I just wanted to have fun and see what developed.

How he took it? Broke up with his girlfriend, called me to hang out and told me it was over, but kept the girlfriend at bay but kept me and figured I would be okay with it because I just wanted to enjoy my time. Uh, no.

Guys, release the safety net. Let go of the what if's and the ex's - go out on a a date with yourself. Figure out who you are and what you want and what you are capable of. Let go of "always being friends with my ex's" because again, you are hanging on the the past and not looking to the future. Being friends with your ex doesn't make you a great guy it makes you always have options. I'm not saying the be a jerk and never speak to them again but there are ways to be cool with your ex's without being friends - same goes for the female side.

So, I think this guy needs to date himself and be alone. He can't go out without dressing as a character - whether it's business, Scottsdale style, kickback style, rugged bike style - whatever he has to have a style. And pick out multiple outfits before choosing his final selection. Seriously, lets focus. Know yourself, know what you are capable of then date.

If you are in your 30's and you think that 6 months is a long time with someone and you are heart broken because you ended it - get over it. It was only 6 months, and not until you are in love, for years will you understand what love is and how beautiful it can be.

But if you aren't open to it, and don't even know who you are just character's playing a part - don't date and spend some much needed alone time.

Then, sit down with your heart and have an honest heart to heart with it. LOL!

Much love and happiness,
The L GRL