Who doesn't have a crack?

I had dinner with a friend the other night. Frustrated at my love life and how I date the wrong guys and been on one too many boring dates. Dates that consist of hanging out at their place, dinner at a chain restaurant or drinks somewhere. Where did we get so boring in our dates? The suns game first date was cool, but a little hard to talk. The brewery wasn't too bad, it was fun but nothing serious. Mini golf wasn't too bad either - at least it was creative than what I've had in the past - although still boring, still so normal.

I have told so many people my life, what I do, how I do it and whatever 20 questions they ask. I tell them about what I am looking for, why I'm single and any other things. I talk a lot about business, the entrepreneur's I date we could spend hours just talking business and overlooking learning about each other.

I actually had a refreshing "date" tonight, one with an entrepreneur like myself - we began getting on our high horses about business and then quickly caught ourselves laughing at how boring we were. We talked about other things the remainder of the time. The new thing about this "date" is the fact we did it online via voice and camera chat. It was great. We decided that in our busy schedules we were tired of going on dates and losing an hour if it wasn't going to work out.

So we passed our first test of each other and are now meeting in person. We are actually going to take a walk in the park, how un-ordinary. I love it.

So back to the dinner with my friend. He told me that I needed to take a break, "find myself," stop attracting jerks, dating liars, and take a month off. I considered it, then I read an article from a woman wo spent 6 months and dated 100 guys before she found her one. That is why we are all here, to find the one that makes our world move and our hearts skip a beat. She re-inspired me. She didn't give up after a few bad experiences, and what she found was as she dated more and got more courage to tell men when she wasn't interested. And in the midst of finding the one - she found herself.

So, I'm not going to take time off. I'm a good and I am ready to find the one and in turn find myself. Love is the best and strongest thing that you can have in your life - so get out there and find it - and find yourself.

Much love and happiness,
The L Grl

"Love is the Greatest Refreshment in Life" - Picasso

Out with the Old, In with the New

Sometimes you date and it's great. Sometimes you date and it's not so great. Sometimes you date and it's downright horrible.

But it's so much fun! I think that by putting yourself out there, exposing the world to you and all of your vulnerabilities is very liberating. The worst thing that can happen is it doesn't work out and your heart might get hurt. But as we all know, time heals all wounds. Getting back out there is the best thing that you can do.

Somewhere out there is the person for you, the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. Love is the most incredible thing that you can have in your life and relationships are the most important. You can have all the money and success in the world but if you don't have love and relationships you are only half complete.

"Better never to have met you in my dream than to wake and reach for hands that are not there." -Otomo No Yakamochi

Love and Happiness,
The L Grl
Writing online dating profiles

Your World vs. Their World

New relationships are like weaving a basket. In order for the basket to function properly it has to start with a strong and tight base. This is the beginning of your relationship. It's not a basket, just a round disk, ready to begin it's journey in to a basket.

When two people come together their worlds are very separate - two people living single lives and working to create a third world - theirs. This is where the basket weaving begins. Both world weaving in and out of themselves, fitting together where it can to create the sides of the basket. Highs and lows and bumps in the road of the relationship are surely to occur - if you have looked at a hand woven basket, there are flaws - multiple colors, lines are not always even or straight and each section has it's own character.

As time progress's, the relationship gets stronger, the walls of the basket get taller - and it looks like it could actually hold something. This is the ultimate test. What can your basket hold? How well was it made? Did you both create a strong foundation and work and communicate along the way of blossoming relationship? Or did you fight, argue over petty things, not talk and not work as hard as you should have? We all know that relationships are hard work!

Place a ball in your basket - that could be marriage, does the basket hold it?
Place another ball in your basket - that could be purchasing a home - does your basket hold it?
Place 2 more balls in your basket - perhaps children - does your basket hold it?

So far, if you basket is standing tall, you wove a great relationship.

Now add water. Does it hold? This is all of the things that could happen - loss of job, financial issues, children issues, relationship issues, car problems, house problems.

How well does your basket hold up now?

Hopefully, it holds - with little to no leaks and although it might weaken a little or warp the foundation and the walls that you so graciously wove together are still staying tight together and not pulling apart, ripping at the seams or falling apart.

Remember, in a relationship you are weaving your worlds together, creating the sides of your basket and the strength of your relationship. To have a long lasting, heart still skips a beat every time I see you relationship you have to meet in the middle, compromise and above all communicate.

Much love and happiness,
The L GRL
www.thelgrl.com