Lusty Love

Is this Lust or is this Love?

I like to be in relationships in the beginning - the lust portion that you hope turns in to love. Most people do. Then someone farts, and the honeymoon is over.

True story. You have to love your significant other smelly farts and all. I cannot tell a lie. I would love to say that it icks me out when my boyfriend farts - but to tell you the truth - I can't help but laugh my heart out and look at him with the same warmth and love as day one - yup, he's still hot to me.

I like the love stage more. The still on edge, will never be too comfortable, could lose you tomorrow but comfortable enough where I don't have to sneak off to the bathroom on the other side of the house to go #2 and hope no one goes in after you.

Lust is fun when you aren't ready to find anyone. You aren't secure yet in your own skin or you just aren't ready. Lust hides within love - love is blind and sometimes ignorant. And when we are blind how do we not see what is right in front of our faces until after our hearts are broken or bank accounts are drained.

Some examples of blindness and what not to do:
You are dating a Dj. That has no manners, no responsibilities, and no retirement plan when they hit 40 and are too old for "in da club."

You are 30, a corporate graphic designer making $40K a year, live in an apartment and you can't afford McDonalds.

You are dating someone 25 years younger than you and you are a millionaire who swears you are in love - I mean, seriously?

You are meeting a girl for the first time, won't make a decision about what to do or where to go and you decide that your first date should be at Rubio's.

You make plans with a girl for a first date on a Friday night and you text her "hey" and continue a text communication for an hour never once mentioning the date, then the date never happens.

So lust and love. What I have learned - love can happen when you take lust out of the picture. In my own experiences of online dating I learned that love is great when you focus on what you have in common. Sometimes, you can't escape the bad dates, but all you have to do is find that one, perfect date.

If all else fails - lust will turn in to love - when all else fails, someone has to fart.

Love and happiness!
The LGRL
Your online dating profile writer