Love is a Chance worth taking - over and over again

"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.

- Captain Corelli's Mandolin. "Love is the beauty of the soul." --St. Augustine

Honesty.

Since when did we become a group of individuals where we could not hear someone being "honest?" We react in an emotional up roar of anger or hurt or sadness or however many other ways you can react poorly to someone just being HONEST.

I know we don't like to hear it, but in the dating world, that is just what happens. You win some and you lose some and you try some on for awhile and well, it just doesn't fit. So what? Move on, there are more than 6 billion people on this planet and survey shows that YES! you will find someone too!

But this whole honesty thing. Interesting. I once told a friend that I wish I could break up with a guy just to see how he handled himself. If he was an adult, and calm and normal - relatively speaking - I would want him back. If he blew up, went crazy, hacked your email, bad-mouthed you to the free world and blew up your phone - well that was just the side of him you never wanted to see again.

The way that people react in stunning or hurtful situations says a lot about someone's character. My personal favorite is when they go directly after you - like it's your fault you aren't interested in them. They say your cold or a very sad and lonely person, that you are in denial or what ever else they can say to hurt you - all because you were being HONEST and just not that interested.

Now, I LOVE the book He's just not that in to you. Where is the one for guys? Where is the one that when She just isn't that in to you.

Instead men get upset. They fly off the handle, be mean, say hateful things or take digs as to why you are on an online dating site - hello? They are on the same site.

I have had good reactions. Thanks for being honest, your cool for that. I have had the same. That's part of mature dating and handling things in a proper manner. Now, I'm glad that I learn sooner than later how someone handles hearing things they don't like. It makes it that much easier to tell them where the door is and to lose your number.

I wish there were a way to know how someone handles things like that. Until then, ladies we have to try, try again. Same with men, I am sure there have been a few angry and hurt women out there.

But we are dating, and all is fair in love and war right? We go out, get back online and try try again.

After all, there is someone out there for everyone and you are getting warmer and warmer, colder and then hot!

Much Love and Happiness,

The L GRL