Your World vs. Their World

New relationships are like weaving a basket. In order for the basket to function properly it has to start with a strong and tight base. This is the beginning of your relationship. It's not a basket, just a round disk, ready to begin it's journey in to a basket.

When two people come together their worlds are very separate - two people living single lives and working to create a third world - theirs. This is where the basket weaving begins. Both world weaving in and out of themselves, fitting together where it can to create the sides of the basket. Highs and lows and bumps in the road of the relationship are surely to occur - if you have looked at a hand woven basket, there are flaws - multiple colors, lines are not always even or straight and each section has it's own character.

As time progress's, the relationship gets stronger, the walls of the basket get taller - and it looks like it could actually hold something. This is the ultimate test. What can your basket hold? How well was it made? Did you both create a strong foundation and work and communicate along the way of blossoming relationship? Or did you fight, argue over petty things, not talk and not work as hard as you should have? We all know that relationships are hard work!

Place a ball in your basket - that could be marriage, does the basket hold it?
Place another ball in your basket - that could be purchasing a home - does your basket hold it?
Place 2 more balls in your basket - perhaps children - does your basket hold it?

So far, if you basket is standing tall, you wove a great relationship.

Now add water. Does it hold? This is all of the things that could happen - loss of job, financial issues, children issues, relationship issues, car problems, house problems.

How well does your basket hold up now?

Hopefully, it holds - with little to no leaks and although it might weaken a little or warp the foundation and the walls that you so graciously wove together are still staying tight together and not pulling apart, ripping at the seams or falling apart.

Remember, in a relationship you are weaving your worlds together, creating the sides of your basket and the strength of your relationship. To have a long lasting, heart still skips a beat every time I see you relationship you have to meet in the middle, compromise and above all communicate.

Much love and happiness,
The L GRL
www.thelgrl.com